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Is your age making you think if a Polyamorous relationship is for you? Here’s everything you need to know before you start one at or over 50.
The usual relationship rule is that two people who are committed to each other share exclusivity. Sometimes, couples though try out the swinger lifestyle or share an open relationship. A polyamorous relationship takes things to an altogether different level.
The history of polyamorous relationships goes back to the time of the Greeks and Mesopotamians. In USA, the first documented version of it goes back to 1848. When John Humphrey Noyes established that Oneida community believed that every man and every woman were technically married to one another.
In the recent times there is a growing trend of couples experimenting with the polyamorous relationship. However, there is still a group who feel negatively about it. Added to this, not all are still open about it and prefer to keep it a closely guarded secret. Couples also define polyamorous differently – ranging from can the partners be from same sex or dose the relationships allow sex only or an emotional connection as well. Studies have not been able to find out an exact number of people in USA who are into a polyamorous relationship.
In a polyamorous relationship the couple discuss the possibility of having more than one partner openly and then do so only when both are in agreement that such a possibility exists. The keyword in a polyamorous relationship is ‘consent’ without which it becomes cheating.
In bigamy only the man is allowed to have many partners married to him and is allowed to sleep with them as he pleases. A polyamorous relationship is different. Here both partners are allowed to have multiple partners and the both are aware of this and accept it as well while reaming committed or married.
In swinging the couple decide to sleep with others but this is done usually for a night for the sake of fun and excitement. In a polyamorous relationship, each relationship is about a connection that is both physical and mental. Such relationships are thus more long term and far more serious.
Everything has a process, which if followed will work out well – so too with a polyamorous relationship. Here’s what you need to do once the both of you have sat, talked and agreed that this is something that you want to get into.
A polyamorous relationship can be a success only if both parties are agreeable and open to it. So, this is the time when you need to tell your partner about the advantages that it carries.
Everything has its benefits and its flaws. So, before you get into a polyamorous relationship there are some things that you should consider.
The polyamorous relationship is often frowned upon not only because there are still many out there with an extremely myopic mind-set that believes in exclusivity in a relationship but also because this kind of relationship isn’t known about too well. With time it is likely that people talk more about it and the correct information gets passed along and the shrouds of mystery disappear.