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Orgasm without Vaginal Intercourse: A Guide for seniors
December 19, 2018 | Sex | By Amanda Johnson
As we age, vaginal intercourse gets difficult for both partners. The reasons are plenty, but what is bewildering is how other ways of giving and receiving sexual pleasure isn’t considered as “sex”. Let us break the myth today with a guide to pleasure and orgasm without vaginal intercourse.
WHY DOES VAGINAL SEX NOT DO IT FOR YOU ANYMORE?
Aging comes with a lot of health problems that affects your sexual performance in bed. Women start lubricating lesser than they did before they reached menopause; this makes intercourse painful for many even after using artificial lubrication. Men have problems like erectile dysfunction, an erection that isn’t hard enough to penetrate and trouble to last for a decent time through the act.
Couples that have stayed together for a long time even start finding intercourse boring because there is nothing new to it. Lack of variety and boring vanilla sex can turn frustrating for people as they age.
WHAT CAN BE DONE TO RECEIVE AND GIVE SEXUAL PLEASURE WITHOUT INTERCOURSE?
Avoiding intercourse and depriving yourselves of pleasure is definitely not a long-term solution to a sexually satisfied life. We have a few tips for you to spice up your bedrooms without getting an intercourse involved in the equation.
Find New Erogenous Zones Through Exploration
The skin is the longest organ of a human body and hence has a lot more pleasurable spots than you think. You and your partner can take turns exploring each other’s bodies with the aim to simply wander. Nipples are a soft spot for all people, you just have to figure out what kind of touch they prefer to stimulate them. You’ll be thrilled to find a few new spots to make them moan. Similarly, tell your lover what feels nice to their touch and where to move for better guidance.
Use Your Fingers and Hands
Heavy petting can be very gratifying for both the partners involved. Use your hands to gently stroke a penis while stimulating other erogenous zones to help them reach completion. If your partner is a female, you can give her a clitoral massage and explore her soft spots. Keep your eyes and ears on alert to see how she reacts to different strokes and pressure on her body and do more of what brings a reaction from her.
Your Mouth Is An Erotic Instrument
Your mouth can do amazing and highly pleasurable things to your lover’s body. Cunnilingus can be very pleasurable with a patient partner who pays attention to the woman’s response to the use of tongue, lips and slight nips of your teeth. In the same way, using your mouth to stimulate your lover’s penis is a great way to make him see stars. Another tip is to use your tongue to tickle erogenous zones like the outer shell of the ears, earlobe, neck and back etc. You will also find an interestingly positive response to kissing your woman’s legs!
Introduce Sex Toys
Vibrators provide a sensation that no phallus, vagina, hand or solid prop can. The gentle vibrations provide a lot of pleasure and help people reach an orgasm faster than any other kind of stimulation. Many seniors are reluctant to try their hand at vibrators and insertions but it can really help! There are vibrators for both vaginas and penises so choose either one. Apart from these, you can buy kinky toys that provide erotic stimulation to both of your minds and bodies. You can indulge in a lot of role-playing using props. Also, have a good lubricant at hand for your play sessions.
Tantric Sex
Tantra has been around for quite a long time and is a spiritual practice to tap into your individual and lover’s sexual energy. Several couples have experienced orgasms together within a very short time with regular practice of the art. There are many guides and sources for you to start educating yourselves if you’ve gotten curious about having sex on a mental level.
Masturbate Together
Masturbating in front of your lover and putting on a show for them is one of the hottest things ever. Taking the heat up a notch higher is our suggestion for you both to masturbate together. It is true that we know the best ways to stimulate our pleasure and our bodies get used to one particular type of touch and movement. Looking at your partner bringing themselves to an orgasm while they are looking at you doing the same is a sexy connection. You can talk dirty to each other while you’re at it as well, it will heighten your senses and make the entire experience more intense.
Prostate Massage
The prostate is one of the most pleasurable spots for humans of all sexual orientations as they have a bundle of nerves present there. A prostate massage with a finger or and anal sex toy can bring you and your partner intense orgasms. You can start small by playing with the opening and slowly introducing a finger. Don’t forget to follow basic hygiene and use enough lubrication to keep the movements fluid. Men especially benefit a lot form prostrate stimulation coupled with stroking the penis with your hands or mouth.
HOW CAN YOU TALK ABOUT IT?
Many people are bashful or embarrassed to talk to their partner about their sexual preferences in bed out of the fear of rejection. Well, since you’re both mature adults, it won’t be hard to express about your likes and dislike about your approach to sexual pleasure. You can broach the subject with a few lines like these:
- Sexual intercourse is not very stimulating to us but we have something in mind which gives us satisfaction.
- I’d really like to try pleasuring you in a different ways since sexual intercourse isn’t always possible for me.
- Can we explore new ways to reach an orgasm? Penetration doesn’t give me the pleasure I need.
CONCLUSION
Communication is the key to a great relationship and opening your mind to new methods of pleasure. Intercourse may not work for both partners all the time. One needs to talk freely about their wants and desire to get maximum sexual satisfaction. Both partners need to be open and eager to explore ways and techniques to satisfy each other sexually. To equip yourself you can take help from books and Cds that will educate you about ways and techniques of sexual intercourse. The key of the game is to keep things simple and free from pressure to perform instead you need to enjoy the moment of sexual intimacy and togetherness.
