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Swinger Lifestyle For Seniors
December 24, 2018 | Sex | By Amanda Johnson
Being a senior citizen does not mean that your want for sex has to go plummeting down. In fact, this is the age when one has a lot of time in hand and wants to experiment. So, if you are thinking of going to a swinger’s club then you are not the only one. Here is more on swinger Lifestyle For Seniors and clubs catering to their needs .
Are There Swinger’s Clubs For Senior Citizens
Swinger’s clubs do exist for older people. However, at your age, finding swingers can be a little challenging because many hide their identities. One of the best places to start is online. For this you can visit swinging websites or clubs that are near your location. You may also find swingers on dating sites meant for adults. Once you enter these sites you may search for couples based on their age, their likes etc. You can also visit nightclubs, hotels and resorts, and even cruise liners to find such people.
If you are wondering which is the right spot at these places where you can start off conversations then you could have them while getting yourself a drink at the bar or even while sitting on the sofa. If you are comfortable dancing then the dance floor is also a place where the probability of meeting people is high. If you are at a place where there is a movie theatre then visit that spot – the darkness does invite eroticism. You will also find such people in pools.
Usually parties for swingers are nighttime events. But, if you search you could even find a day event. For example, Florida has a resort called Paradise Lakes where nudity is allowed and you would find like-minded people at the pool even during daytime.
When you are just starting and new to the game it is better if you were to go to a club rather than meet a couple individually. Breaking the ice might be a little difficult on a one-on-one basis. When you are amidst people not only does the work get easier but you also have greater option and also you can see how the experienced swingers behave. Also, at a party refusing someone is easier than if you were to meet individually. Know this – no one can ever force you to join any activity that you don’t want to. In fact, many at your age, attend these gatherings simply to observe.
Set The Rules Before Going To A Swinger’s Club
Keep The Expectations Low
If you are going with your partner then you need to set some rules before you hit the clubs. It is not easy for a woman who has been with you for decades to watch her partner having sex with another woman. So, allow her time to get used to the idea. Also if she has given you the permission but she is uncomfortable with something, then don’t try and coerce her into it. Keep your expectations grounded.
Focus On Having Fun
The main reason why seniors visit a clubs is to get the monotony out of their lives. If you are visiting one such club, that should be your aim too. Don’t go with the desire to find someone who you can have a night of steaming sex with. Go to find someone you can spend time with and maybe more will follow thereafter.
It Is A Joint Effort
If you are making a profile page online it should be a reflection of what both of you want. It cannot be only about your wishes but also it should speak of your partner’s likes as well.
Need To Be Open Minded
One cannot go to a swinger’s club and get into a fight about why one partner is getting oral sex from a stranger! Hence, when you plan such an outing you need to be open-minded and on the same page. If even one of you is feeling awkward and feels like backing out at the last moment, the other one should be alright with that. This is the kind of club where force does not work.
Spell The Rules
When you visit such a club it is best to know what the rules are from beforehand and till how far the both of you would be comfortable. If going all he way is not allowed then it should be decided earlier. There are many couples who are alright with kissing and touching but not beyond that. There is nothing right or wrong about it as long as both know what the rules are and do not overstep the boundary lines.
Be Social
If you are going to sit in one corner and expect people to come to you then that is not happening. There might be couples that know each other and so they all want to be in familiar territory. So you need to be social. If you spot someone you want to move ahead with then go up and say the first hello. Offer a drink and break the ice. However, don’t get yourself drunk. Imagine thinking of having a great time and then dozing off!
Reach Early
It will be no fun and, in fact, even a tad embarrassing if you reach late and find that people have already made their choices and the sexapades have begun. So, reaching early is an intelligent decision. It will give you ample time to look around and chat up different people before you settle down.
Know The Club Rules
Different clubs have different rules. So when you are at one it is good to find out about these. For instance one club could use jargons to tell what kind of sex you are looking for while other can use wristbands of different colours to communicate whether he/she is available or not. If you are confused then just ask – people are friendly enough to help you.
The Risks Of Being A Part Of Such A Club
At places like this the chances of catching an infection – be that a sexually transmitted disease or even AIDS is quite high. Having sex with a stranger can be exciting but dangerous as well. So it is advisable to always use protection during the act and not take the risk of getting infected.
When you are at these clubs all that you need to do is to be open-minded and be yourself. Keep these tips handy and you will soon find that you have found the right people and having fun.
