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Guide to Threesome for Seniors
May 2, 2019 | Sex | By Lisa Smith
Curiosity to discover new sexual pleasures is what keeps a lot of couples’ intimacy healthy and alive. Indulging in a threesome is one of the top fantasies of almost every person, but many shy away from it due to fear of judgment. Maybe you or your partner want to play out now for a change; these things keep your sex life spiced up and exciting after a point of time where people start to lose interest in intercourse. Whatever your reasons are, If you want to try threesome sex after you are past 50, Lets50 has a few tips and rules in this guide to threesome for you to follow.
Why Give In To A Threesome At This Age?
Seniors wanting to indulge in sexual activity with multiple partners is not new. Many married couples decide on having an open relationship when they have spent so many years together but want to enjoy indulging in their curiosity that remained suppressed all those younger years. Role-play with a third person along with your partner is one of the most common sexual fantasies. What do they love about a threesome? Well, people get turned-on while being watched by their partner. For others, it’s the thrill of sharing their beau with someone else or playing with another while the spouse participates.
So, why start now? A threesome brings a novelty to your vanilla sex life in the context of getting adventurous with new positions and situations. This doesn’t necessarily mean that your loyalty is compromised; for some, it’s all about a new encounter with their beloved. If you both feel like acting on your raunchy side is going to bring a spark of sensuality in your sex life, you definitely should give a thought about trying a threesome.
Arranging A Threesome
Now that you have made up your minds about going through with your plans, arranging a threesome is your next task. A lot of seniors give up here thinking about the complexities of finding a willing participant, but you may be surprised by just how many people would be interested if you only asked!
You may have a long-time friend who might have interested your partner and you as well. If you think your partner is open about getting it on with such a known person without any insecurity, you could drop a few hints here and there. But the best and safest method of all would be to hire someone. We’re definitely not ageist, but hiring someone would make your job much easier than being judged. What’s better about hiring a male or female for a threesome? We have a few points for you:
1. They Are Professionals
These guys are professionals and they will do exactly what they’re hired for. You don’t have to worry about them getting clingy or emotionally attached to you or your partner. When you hire them, you are guaranteed hot and adventurous sex or role-play minus any complications.
2. You Don’t Have To Worry About Insecurities
What happens when you approach a known person for a threesome? It can get messed up at times and incite drama you both don’t need in your lives. At times a partner gets insecure about their skill and relationship when they see you enjoying yourself with a friend. Possessiveness while sharing your woman also is another problem that might occur.
3. They Are Skilled
There is no fumbling and nervousness on their part because they know exactly what they’re doing. When you both are new to threesomes it’s good to get hired assistance because they guide you through very well. Plus, some people are extremely turned on by being told what to do!
4. Safe From STDs
Professionals are tested regularly and use great measures to keep themselves clean of any STDs. You can be assured that you or your loved one will not pay a heavy price for indulging in a fantasy with a long-term prescription. However, using protection is also your responsibility for your own safety.
5. Your Relationship Is Safe
With a professional as the third party in your sexual encounter, you have nothing to worry about when it comes to your relationship. Picking a person you both find attractive and suitable will reassure you. You also know that this is a hired person doing their job of igniting your sex lives, so any doubts about straying are put to rest on the spot.
Rules To Swear By
When you involve a third person in your bedroom activities, it is always fun and games as long as you follow the code. Sometimes disasters happen because of a bit of negligence and ignorance, and we don’t want that for you! To ensure you and your partner get the best out of this experience, it is necessary that you read on the tips mentioned below.
1. Ensure That Your Partner Wants This As Much As You Do
Before you dive into your fantasy land, you need to make sure that your other half really wants a threesome as well. Don’t take their “yes” for a definite; they may say so because you’re being insistent and excited. If you venture into this scenario where he or she gets sick before the plans materialize or their unwillingness to discuss a threesome, you need to consider something deeper going on and back off.
2. Pay Attention To Your Woman or Man The Most
A threesome is not the ideal place to play favorites. Shower your partner with more attention and contact than the third person because the last thing you want to do is make them feel like the third wheel. Knowing that you prefer your beloved over anyone else even while naked is going to keep them secure and happy.
3. Don’t Act Like This Is An Adult Movie
Please have some etiquette and cut out the porno talk and acts while having a threesome. The adult movies are meant only for entertainment purpose and the scenes are scripted. Instead, be comfortable, do what feels natural, be respectful and have fun experimenting.
4. Generosity Helps
Even when you’re showing your partner that they’re your favorite, don’t forget that the third person is in for pleasure as well. Make them feel involved and don’t interrupt an intense session that two of the participants by making abrupt actions. Wait for your turn, gently ease them out of it and rebuild the pace with you in it.
5. Enjoy The Journey
There are no scripts and steps to enjoying a threesome. You just go with the flow and do what feels good to the three of you. Don’t force yourselves into positions and scenarios you’re not comfortable with. Let the scene play out naturally if you’re just starting; talk a bit, share wine and sensual foods and get a little playful. You’ll automatically find yourselves getting all touchy and feely. Most importantly, smile and laugh through the minor fumbles, this is supposed to be fun and not an Olympic sport!
6. No Jealousy
There are times when you will find your partner getting intense with the third person. It mostly happens when you share your woman with a known guy-friend. Sharing is what you agreed on, so don’t get jealous and possessive because you are the one who cuddles up to her and hears out her problems, don’t you. She will always pick you and there is no competition. Instead, you could focus on how she holds on to you even when with another man in the bedroom.
7. You May Have To Deal With A Few Consequences
It’s all good while you’re both into it. Sometimes one of you might get uncomfortable mid-session. It’s okay and it happens. If you see your partner becoming uncomfortable even when you’re enjoying the attention, stop. Read the signs you know so well from your years together. Sometimes your partner remains quiet and detached after the session; don’t panic and give them time to word their concerns. Make sure to ease their insecurities away and not argue or judge. If they say that they don’t want to try it again, listen to them. These things are natural but you’ll both be fine as you understand each other.
Following our guide to threesomes for seniors will not only help you make your minds up about going through with it, but also ensure that you and your partner have a positive experience. Our tips are meant to help you both get the best out of this experience and keep the embers of your sex life burning bright!
