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Seniors & Dating: Why It Doesn’t Work And What You Should Do About It?
April 8, 2020 | Romance & Relationship | By Amanda Johnson
Are you over 50 and having a bad time trying to get a date? Have you tried dating apps and still getting no results? If yes, there’s something you aren’t doing right. Here are a few reasons why dating doesn’t usually work for seniors in this age and time.
1. Filters, A Boon Or Bane
The chances of finding a compatible partner while applying the average person’s filters in terms of desired age, physical requirements, location, and the rest of them, has a 1 in a 1500 chance of being successful. It gets worse for people with very particular preferences.
2. Profiles Are Not Always Real People
No profile no matter how well written can capture the full extent of a person’s personality. Some people lie in their profiles while some just suck at selling themselves. Profiles project an image of the people you meet online which is far from who they truly are.
3. Untrustworthy Algorithm
Despite the claims by top companies in the dating industry about algorithms, they don’t work. The decisions are left for you to make based on what you see, not some random algorithm in an app or website.
4. Something Better Is Waiting For You
The fact that users have access to explore a world of infinite choices without any consequences on dating platforms makes it very difficult to find a soul mate or significant other. There’s always this thought that something better is waiting, making individuals put little effort into making things work. The moment they feel you are not perfect enough for them, they move on to another attractive profile.
5. Fakes And Scammers
Dating apps are flooded with fakes and scammers preying on vulnerable seniors. This makes finding genuine individuals that are looking to find a date quite difficult.
What Should Seniors Do About It?
Now you know why it’s been difficult for you to find a date, are you going to give up? No, all hope isn’t lost. There are certain things you can do to help counter those issues making it difficult for you to find a date. Here are a few things you should do about it
1. Stop Filtering
If filters don’t work, then the solution is simple, stop using them. You should also change your approach to how your potential match should be accessed. Try to challenge some of the assumptions you hold about the sort of person that will be a compatible match for you.
2. Give Up Dating
This might sound strange, but it’s probably the best recommendation we have for you. Shift your mindset from the concept of “dating” and instead, get out there and do the things you love. If you put yourself in an environment where you meet people, you’ll find someone you are compatible with.
3. Forget The Algorithms
Since research has proven that algorithms matching you with your ideal companion don’t work, then you have no reason to bother with them anymore. You need to trust yourself to be able to make that decision on your own by looking out for the things that matter in your ideal spouse.
4. Take A Chargeable Dating Membership
Someone who isn’t willing to make a small financial commitment isn’t serious about finding the right companion. This doesn’t mean only people who pay dating memberships on dating sites are serious or good enough. It’s just better to filter them a little and get a better chance of finding someone with similar interests with you.
5. Talk With The Person
Profiles don’t tell the real story behind an individual and what they are like in the real world. The only way to find out what they are like is by engaging with them. You don’t have to meet every one of them in person first, you can engage in meaningful conversations online, ask them a question or two. You’ll be surprised how much information you can get from doing that.
6. Keep Yourself Safe
This isn’t necessarily going to get you a companion, but you don’t want to get hurt in the process. Many people fall into the arms of kidnappers, rapists and online scammers while looking for companionship. Do not put yourself in a position or situation where you can be harmed.
Dating might get a little tricky for seniors in this internet age, but it doesn’t make it impossible to find a companion. Make a few adjustments to the way you’ve been trying in the past and watch you get in the dating circle again.
